Archive for September, 2011

As I read Martha Beck’s column in the most recent Oprah magazine, I was reminded once again of the importance of monitoring our thoughts. As Mike Dooley, www.tut.com, reminds us, “thought become things – choose the good ones”. So what do you do when a less than perfect thought comes bubbling up, apparently out of no where. What do you do when you become aware of these thought forms?

According to the new research emerging on neuroplasticity, spearheaded by folks like Jill Bolte Taylor (My Stroke of Insight), you have 90 seconds to re-program that thought.

WOW – only 90 seconds?

Actually 90 seconds is longer than you might think. First of all it gives you times to become aware of the thought, second it gives you time to shake hands with it, acknowledge it, and recognize that it is way less than perfect. Finally you have the opportunity to call into your awareness a more perfect thought. You get to do what I call ‘flip-it’.

What does that look like. If you find yourself in anger, resentment or judgment, ask yourself, ‘How would I rather feel?”

The answer may be something like, “I want to be in joy, peace or ease, perhaps even gratitude.”

The process then goes like this:

  1. recognize the thought roaming around in your head.
  2. assess how it makes you feel
  3. discern if that’s really where you want to play
  4. shake hands with the devilish thoughts  – do NOT dismiss it
  5. be clear on where you would rather be/play
  6. re-program the thought.

After 90 seconds, if you stay with the thought forms that do not serve you, they are registered in the brain. My best advice, confront, flip and shift  – in the long run this will serve you as it will be the new thought form, the one that serves you and helps you to be positive, which will be registered.

This is some food for thought (no pun intended) don’t you think?

Until next time…


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During the taping of the roadSIGNS TV Show for Cogeco Cornwall yesterday, a wonderful question arrived. Here it is:

What would it take for you to step out of your Comfort Zone and into your Courage Zone?

I love it when one of my clients, or in this case a member of our studio audience, asks one of those great questions. This is what keeps me on my toes and keeps me learning as well.

Yesterday we were filming a series of shows called Living in GRACE, GRACE being an acronym for Gratitude, Respect, Acknowledgment, Courage and Enthusiasm. As you can imagine this specific question came up during the conversation on Courage.

Courage shows up in so many ways everyday. Example:

  • the courage to choose something different or new , something outside your comfort zone
  • the courage to be curiosity and play in the land of what if…
  • the courage to set boundaries for yourself and say NO to others when you need to say YES to you
  • the courage to confront fears you have or those limiting beliefs that hold you in your comfort zone
  • the courage to stay the course once you have stepped onto it.

The great opportunity before each of us is to step out in courage and see what the world look like on the other side of our comfort zone. I had no idea what it would be like to have a TV Show. My curiosity went to the what if… and the rest is history. Do I get nervous. Darn right! It feels a little scary to be putting yourself out there, whether that is writing a new book, speaking to an audience or hosting a TV Show. Courage is required every time you make a new choice and that’s where excitement, enthusiasm and enjoyment live as well.

Are you ready to leave comfort behind for courage?

Let me know.

We will be launching the ME FIRST Playbook later this month, a fun and funky companion book to ME FIRST – If I Should Wake before I Die. You can pre-order at http://www.roadsigns.ca/products.html   or join us on Sunday, October 16th at the Cornwall Public Library, 1 PM for the official book launch.

Until next time…


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Notty or Nice

Every once in a while I receive something through e-mail that really resonates with me or makes me think a little deeper about a specific subject. These are of course one form of the many roadSIGNS which I attract.

Last evening I received the Knots Prayer from one of my neighbors. It sets a great tone for this week’s column:

Dear God:

Please untie the knots that are in my mind, my heart and my life.

Remove the have nots, the can nots and the do nots that I have in my mind.

Erase all the will nots, may nots, might nots that find a home in my heart.

Release me from the could nots, would nots and should nots that obstruct my life.

And most of all Dear God,

I ask you to remove from my mind, my heart and my life

all the ‘am nots’ that I have allowed to hold me back,

especially the thought that I am not good enough.


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What a wonderful reminder of all the ‘nots’ that show up in your life on a daily basis. It does make you notice them. I like the prayer and part of me also wants to modify it. I am not big on the word ‘not’ and so I propose a second prayer build around the same idea, with slightly different wording. I call this the NICE Prayer, NICE standing for Now I Can Everyday.

The NICE Prayer

Dear God:

I untie all the knots that are in my mind, my heart and my life.

I release myself from what no longer serves me and attract all that is in my highest good.

I see what I have, that I can and what I do in all parts of my life.

I release myself from the could’s, would’s and should’s imposed on me by others.

And Dear God,

I choose to live in the ‘I AM’,

 understanding that who I am is perfect and definitely good enough,

and that I am powerful just as I am.


Both, by the way are great prayers and you can judge for yourself the one you prefer. I love the Knots Prayer yet felt myself feeling tangled up in all those nots. Since I understand how the Law of Attraction works, and how the Law does not recognize ‘not’ my preference was to remove them. Try it for yourself.

Most importantly, and here is the real message for today, notice where in your live your ‘nots’ live. Imagine if for every time you said ‘I can’t’ , you said ‘I can’. I imagine if for every time you said ‘I have not’, you said ‘I have’. Apply this rule to all the other ‘nots’ that have been showing up in your life, and change your vocabulary. I can assure you of this, ‘not’ is a word that limits you, holds you back, and diminishes you. The moment you enter the NO’NOT” ZONE, and remove the dastardly word from you vocabulary, you give yourself permission to dream, to grow, to expand, and most importantly, to step into your own power.

How simple is that?

Until next time….


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